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With Honesty Comes Truth!

41CO8JiU5hL._AC_US218_Here is a short story from my book,  “The Pollyanna Effect”.

 

Long, long ago an emperor was to find someone to take over his throne. He had all the young people gather around and he gave them each a seed. He told them all to go home and grow the seed, then come back in one year. He would then judge the plants and choose the next king.

Everyone was talking about how big their plant had grown, except one person named Ling. Ling had watered his seed and cared for it every day, still nothing. A year had passed and everyone was taking their big beautiful plants to the emperor. Ling told his mom, I am ashamed, my seed did not grow. His mom said to him, take your pot with the seed to the emperor anyway, be honest. Ling was humiliated and all the others were laughing at him.

The emperor looked at all the big beautiful plants and was amazed. He then saw Ling hiding in the background, the Emperor motioned for Ling to come up to the thrown. The Emperor then made the announcement that Ling would be the next king, everyone was in shock. The Emperor then said, I gave you all boiled seeds to plant, knowing they would not grow, Ling was the only one who was honest enough to tell the truth.

 

Have Courage Over Cancer!

cancer ribbonI just came across this quote today and had to share it!

“I learned that courage was not the absence of fear, but the triumph over it. The brave man is not he who does not feel afraid, but he who conquers that fear.”
― Nelson Mandela

We all fear cancer!  But instead of having fear, we need to have courage over it! If we conquer our fear of cancer, as far as I’m concerned, WE WIN!!

How To Manage Your Emotions When Having Cancer!

emotions girlDo you go on day after day and let emotions control you? Or do you control them?

It took me a long time to learn to control my emotions and stay positive in life. I’m so glad I did, because when I was diagnosed with breast cancer it tried to turn my life upside down.

Most of the doctors were negative, telling me you only have two choices, have a mastectomy or a lumpectomy and radiation. They sat me down asking me if I was ok, never telling me that it would be ok.

I believe, because of my positive attitude, I was able to keep my emotions in tact and beat the deadly disease of breast cancer. I can happily say now that I am cancer free!

Negative Emotions

Much of psychology and counseling focuses on how to regulate negative emotions, such as, negativity, anxiety, depression, anger and stress. Some of our closest friends and even our families can be very negative in our live.

Much of our life also includes the experience of positive emotions as well, and learning to regulate emotions such as joy, gratitude, and optimism. You need to start looking on the bright side of things, always being in a happy state of mind.

An article that was posted in the, Journal of Happiness Studies in 2007, reports that there are two main strategies when it comes to the regulation of positive emotions. These include maintaining or prolonging, and increasing or enhancing, positive emotional experiences.

Maintaining positive emotions

When we hear some great news, achieve something important to us, experience something inspiring and uplifting, this is when you need to find a way to make these feelings last. This helps us to get the most from positive emotions.

One thing that can be done is to simply share positive and pleasant news with others. As long as the other person is willing to embrace and validate our positive feelings, it gives us a chance to prolong our positive feelings. If you do share with a negative person, always be ready for a negative feedback.

Learning to savor positive feelings and experiences can really help you experience extended positive emotions. A few ways to savor positive emotions is to anticipate the upcoming experience, appreciate and fully engage in the moment, and reminisce about the experience afterwards.

Enhancing positive emotions

When things are going well in your life, this is a great opportunity to boost and enhance your positive emotional experiences. Cultivating gratitude is one way to do this. Consider the blessings in your life and really appreciate all the good things you have. Every day before you get out of bed, you should think of all the things you are grateful for.

A short exercise that I learned was to write on a piece of paper every day for twenty one days, three things that I am grateful for. Never repeating the same one twice. Try it for yourself; you will not believe how this one exercise will change your whole outlook on life, especially when dealing with cancer.

Learning to find positive meaning and value when there’s stress and adversity in our life, can also help us turn our emotional state around. Reframe and reappraise situations with a positive outlook. Find that silver lining and embrace that positive thought instead of the negative thought.

Do what you can to extract the most satisfaction from your positive feelings and you will find it easier to bounce back from negativity and keep positive throughout your day and throughout your life!

“Either You Run The Day, Or The Day Runs You!” Quote: Jim Rohnpositive

Cancer Got You Down? Be Happy Now!

smiling sunCancer sure has a way to get you down. Make you feel like crap and be depressed. Don’t let it win! Be happy now!

Some people are waiting for that special moment to be happy. Waiting for the Cancer to be gone! Waiting for the perfect mate, waiting for the right job, waiting for the house to be paid off, waiting for the kids to finish college. If you keep waiting for the perfect moment to be happy, you will never be happy.

You have to be happy right now, in the present, then you will be happy in the future. Happiness is a mental habit, a mental attitude, and if it’s not learned and practiced in the present it will never be experienced.

Happiness cannot be waited upon until all problems are solved. Every time a problem is solved another one comes along. Life is a series of problems. If you’re to be happy at all, you must be happy in the here and now.

Abraham Lincoln quoted: “Most people are about as happy as they make up their minds to be.”

We have let the little things make us unhappy for so long, it has become a habit to have frustrations, dissatisfaction’s and irritability. Things that make us that way are a blow to our self esteem, so we react as being unhappy.

You need to stop letting circumstances and other people dictate how you feel. Change your attitude, change your out look and change your feelings. Form the habit of reacting positively toward problems. Practice keeping a positive attitude. postiiveContinue to do this and you will be happy in the present and in the future. This worked wonders for me when I was battling breast cancer. I surrounded myself with happy people and, I AM a cancer survivor!!

Cancer Got You Down? Just Smile!

smileyCancer can do so many bad things to your body and mind; it is an all around destroyer. Don’t let it!! SMILE!!

I know this may sound silly to you, but your attitude definitely has an effect on cancer.

One of the best ways to boost your health, your mood, your longevity, and even your success is to Smile.

Smiles do a lot more than simply let the world know you’re happy. Studies suggest that smiling, forced or not, can have a positive effect on your mood, decrease stress levels, and even make everyone around you feel better.

We all have the right to choose our feelings, so choose happiness, choose to SMILE!

Choose to SMILE, build up your immune system, and BEAT CANCER!!!

Cancer! Are You Now Angry At The World?

angryThere are at least 50 negative emotions that people have.

One of the worst emotions you can feel is anger. Anger is one of the most powerful and destructive emotion you can inject on your body. If you keep your anger bottled up inside of you, it can destroy your health. If you let your anger out it can destroy every relationship you have with others.

Think of how you feel when your angry. Does it affect how you eat? Does it affect how you reason in everyday life? Does it affect how you think? The longer you stay angry, the more it will escalate, just like more wood fuels a fire. It will soon be out of control.

Nothing ever good comes from anger. It serves no purpose at all. Have you ever had someone cut you off in traffic or jump in front of you in a long line you’ve been waiting in? All of a sudden your anger flares. Rather than getting angry and ruining your health, just say to yourself, “I guess they are in a bigger hurry than I am!”

Your doctor tells you, “You have Cancer!” First I felt nothing, then sadness, then Anger! Why Me? Why Me Cancer?

You need to learn to detach yourself from the moment. Learn to starve your negative emotions, cut them right off at the beginning. Stop blaming others for your unhappiness. The Law of Attraction says that your conscious mind can only hold one thought at a time. Either a negative thought or a positive thought, but not both at the same time.

Take control of your negative emotions by thinking of only positive thoughts, you’ll start being more calm, relaxed, and have more clarity of your life and better health. Being angry just fuels the cancer inside of you.cancer ribbon

Stop being angry at everyone that cuts you off or says something to offend you. Stop being angry that you have Cancer. Stop being angry at the World! It can only make things worse.

For every minute you are angry, you loose sixty seconds of happiness! ‘Unknown author’

Are You Feeding Your Fear or Your Faith?

fearThere is a statement that says, “What we feed will grow”. If we feed on fear we will live a life controlled by fear, if we feed on faith we will live a life in love and faith. If you had or now have cancer, then you know, you cannot feed it.

What I mean by this is, Cancer loves to feed on stress! You need to stay as happy as possible and laugh a lot, cancer does not like laughter.

Fear is a deterrent that can hold you hostage and keep you from realizing your dreams. The presence of fear can serve as a self destructive force. It can reduce confidence in several of your everyday functions. The saying, “there’s nothing to fear but fear itself“, is absolutely true.

I believe everyone has had that moment when you wanted to do something but decided not to because of your fear.

For instance:
You Fail to start a business, because fear of failure stops you.
You Fail to put your best effort into something, because you fear that your effort won’t be enough to help you succeed.
You Fail to do what you’re most passionate about, as your afraid you will fail.

Imagine if you could overcome your fear and start doing things that you really wanted to do, instead of accepting things that fear stops you from doing. Would you be happier? Would you achieve more out of life? Say you wanted to start a business, but fear of doing so, causes the image in your mind of you failing. Replace that negative image with a positive image of you succeeding in the business.

You can do the same thing with cancer.  Replace the negative image of you getting sick and dying, with a positive image of you living a happy fulfilled life.  Not everyone is lucky enough to beat cancer, but it really does help to keep a great attitude.

Take one step at a time!step

Once you have conquered one of your fears, you will gain a new positive belief that you can conquer more fears. You will be amazed at what you can accomplish when you knock down your fears one by one. That is when you will start to truly enjoy your life to the fullest.

Faith is the victory in overcoming fear. Faith isn’t always about religion; it’s more about falling prey to false thoughts. If you take the time to feed your mind with positive thoughts, you will be able to conquer any challenges that life can offer.

wolfThere’s an old Native American story about a grandfather that is teaching an important life lesson to his grandson. The grandfather says: “I have two wolves fighting in my heart. One wolf is full of darkness; he is envious, resentful, fearful and deceitful.

The other wolf is full of light. He is loving, compassionate, generous, serene and truthful.”

The grandson asked his grandfather; “Which wolf will win?”

The grandfather replied, “The one I feed.”

Starve your fear, feed your life and you will find that you will become completely different all together. Then YOU can decide which one is better, Feeding your Fear or Feeding your Faith.