Do you go on day after day and let emotions control you? Or do you control them?
It took me a long time to learn to control my emotions and stay positive in life. I’m so glad I did, because when I was diagnosed with breast cancer it tried to turn my life upside down.
Most of the doctors were negative, telling me you only have two choices, have a mastectomy or a lumpectomy and radiation. They sat me down asking me if I was ok, never telling me that it would be ok.
I believe, because of my positive attitude, I was able to keep my emotions in tact and beat the deadly disease of breast cancer. I can happily say now that I am cancer free!
Much of psychology and counseling focuses on how to regulate negative emotions, such as, negativity, anxiety, depression, anger and stress. Some of our closest friends and even our families can be very negative in our live.
Much of our life also includes the experience of positive emotions as well, and learning to regulate emotions such as joy, gratitude, and optimism. You need to start looking on the bright side of things, always being in a happy state of mind.
An article that was posted in the, Journal of Happiness Studies in 2007, reports that there are two main strategies when it comes to the regulation of positive emotions. These include maintaining or prolonging, and increasing or enhancing, positive emotional experiences.
Maintaining positive emotions
When we hear some great news, achieve something important to us, experience something inspiring and uplifting, this is when you need to find a way to make these feelings last. This helps us to get the most from positive emotions.
One thing that can be done is to simply share positive and pleasant news with others. As long as the other person is willing to embrace and validate our positive feelings, it gives us a chance to prolong our positive feelings. If you do share with a negative person, always be ready for a negative feedback.
Learning to savor positive feelings and experiences can really help you experience extended positive emotions. A few ways to savor positive emotions is to anticipate the upcoming experience, appreciate and fully engage in the moment, and reminisce about the experience afterwards.
Enhancing positive emotions
When things are going well in your life, this is a great opportunity to boost and enhance your positive emotional experiences. Cultivating gratitude is one way to do this. Consider the blessings in your life and really appreciate all the good things you have. Every day before you get out of bed, you should think of all the things you are grateful for.
A short exercise that I learned was to write on a piece of paper every day for twenty one days, three things that I am grateful for. Never repeating the same one twice. Try it for yourself; you will not believe how this one exercise will change your whole outlook on life, especially when dealing with cancer.
Learning to find positive meaning and value when there’s stress and adversity in our life, can also help us turn our emotional state around. Reframe and reappraise situations with a positive outlook. Find that silver lining and embrace that positive thought instead of the negative thought.
Do what you can to extract the most satisfaction from your positive feelings and you will find it easier to bounce back from negativity and keep positive throughout your day and throughout your life!
“Either You Run The Day, Or The Day Runs You!” Quote: Jim Rohn