There are many days that you sit dreaming about “What If”!
What if I would have finished high school? What it I had decided on a career? What if I followed my dream? What If I get cancer? What If’s can drive you insane. You need to stop all the what if’s and think of all the great positive things in your life right now.
Right now you can use your broken dreams, disappointments and “what ifs” as stepping stones towards a better future. If you learn from your mistakes, and move forward, you will move forward toward a bigger and better future. Make the most out of today rather than the “What If’s” of yesterday!
So many people get stuck in the “should-a, would-a, could-a’s” and have a hard time forgiving themselves for not doing better in life. Self-forgiveness is vital for moving ahead in life rather than spending time living with a constant pull from the past. Forgive yourself for not knowing everything!
A person really never knows what might have happened if you had chosen the other path, it could even have been worse! We continue to think how things could have been better, rather than focus on what could have been worse! And believe me, things could have been worse.
Look ahead and step out of the “What If’s”! It’s not good to be stuck with unproductive regret. There’s a big difference between productive and unproductive regret. Unproductive regret keeps you focused on how the past would have been better, and productive regret helps you make better decisions as you look toward your future.
I once heard about, “The Swiss Cheese Theory of Life!”
You need to accept the fact that life is not smooth and predictable like American or Cream Cheese. Rather, it is more like Swiss cheese with all its characteristic holes. Interestingly enough, it is a fact that the bigger the holes in the Swiss, the more flavorful, sweeter and more distinctive the cheese. Using this as an analogy to our lives, we have the opportunity of getting stronger and developing more character when we get through large life “holes” and obstacles.’ So, with The Swiss Cheese Theory Of Life, you can feel more positive no matter what comes your way, and will be able to “SMILE AND SAY CHEESE!”