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What Is The Meaning Of Happiness?

little girl happyWhile looking up the meaning of happiness, my brother happened to have a dictionary dated 1912,  over 100 years old. It is called the ‘New Websterian 1912 Dictionary’. Based upon the unabridged dictionary of Noah Webster, LL.D.

The meaning of happiness in this dictionary is: The state of being happy; good fortune; felicitousness. There is also a meaning of, happify, didn’t really know it was a word, but it says: to make cheerful and happy.

What Good Is It To Have Everything If You’re Not Happy?

I think people have lost perspective of what true happiness is. People keep thinking, If I would just loose some weight I would be happy, If I could make more money I would be happy, If I was rich I would be happy, If I had better health, I would be happy. I could go on and on with different reasons of what people think they need in order to be happy.

Right now we live in an age of convenience. We have more conveniences than our ancestors could ever even dream of having. We have trains, planes, and fast automobiles. We have cell phones, and computers, at the touch of a button we can communicate with any one in the world. Yet with all these conveniences more people are unhappy and miserable today than a hundred years ago.

People are getting so caught up with chasing after the next big buck, with being rich that they forget the true meaning of a happy life. What good is it to have everything if you’re not happy?

Jack LaLanne made a video a few years ago and in it he talks about being happy. He said if you look around you when you’re on a bus or walking down the street, you’ll notice the bigger majority of people have frowns on their faces, they’ve completely lost the ability to smile. They may be driving the fanciest car, or wearing the most expensive suit, or have all the money in the world, but they’re not happy. Why is this?

He tells a story of being on a street car, where this lady wore ragged clothes, torn dress and carrying a baby. She sat down on the bus, started nursing the baby and then started singing, everyone on the street car started singing, including Jack LaLanne. He said almost all the people on the street car were poor, they had little food, little money, no fancy cars, but they were happy. So what good does it do to have all the major convinces in life, the fancy cars, the fancy suits, lots of money, if you can’t be happy? It makes no sense to Jack Lalanne, it makes no sense to me.

Jack Lalanne’s whole focus in life is exercise, eating right and being happy. He says you need to exercise, without exercise everything is hanging and drooping, including your smile. He says, “Let’s get back to the way nature intended us to be, really enjoying everything we have in this great land of ours, and really appreciate it twenty four hours a day. You must choose to be happy, and live your day as if it was your last!happy baby

Happiness cannot come from without. It must come from within. It is not what we see and touch or that which others do for us which makes us happy; it is that which we think and feel and do, first for the other fellow and then for ourselves. ‘Helen Keller’

I truly believe that one of the ways to fight cancer is to stay in a happy frame of mind, ALWAYS BE HAPPY! I believe it helped me fight breast cancer and now basil cell cancer.

Have Courage Over Cancer!

cancer ribbonI just came across this quote today and had to share it!

“I learned that courage was not the absence of fear, but the triumph over it. The brave man is not he who does not feel afraid, but he who conquers that fear.”
― Nelson Mandela

We all fear cancer!  But instead of having fear, we need to have courage over it! If we conquer our fear of cancer, as far as I’m concerned, WE WIN!!

Dr. Wayne Dryer Will Be Missed By All!

dr. wayne dyerBecause I believe you need to hear inspirational messages and stay positive to beat cancer, I just had to post this about Dr. Wayne Dryer.

Dr. Wayne W. Dyer, the best-selling self-help guru and author of 30 books is now in heaven looking over us. He will be missed!

Dr. Wayne Dyer was speaking at a conference one day about an orange, this is what was said:

“I was preparing to speak at an I Can Do It conference and I decided to bring an orange on stage with me as a prop for my lecture. I opened a conversation with a bright young fellow of about twelve who was sitting in the front row.
“If I were to squeeze this orange as hard as I could, what would come out?” I asked him.
He looked at me like I was a little crazy and said, “Juice, of course.”
“Do you think apple juice could come out of it?”
“No!” he laughed.
“What about grapefruit juice?”
“No!”
“What would come out of it?”
“Orange juice, of course.”
“Why? Why when you squeeze an orange does orange juice come out?”
He may have been getting a little exasperated with me at this point.
“Well, it’s an orange and that’s what’s inside.”
I nodded. “Let’s assume that this orange isn’t an orange, but it’s you. And someone squeezes you, puts pressure on you, says something you don’t like, offends you. And out of you comes anger, hatred, bitterness, fear. Why? The answer, as our young friend has told us, is because that’s what’s inside.”oranges
It’s one of the great lessons of life. What comes out when life squeezes you? When someone hurts or offends you? If anger, pain and fear come out of you, it’s because that’s what’s inside. It doesn’t matter who does the squeezing—your mother, your brother, your children, your boss, the government. If someone says something about you that you don’t like, what comes out of you is what’s inside. And what’s inside is up to you, it’s your choice.
When someone puts the pressure on you and out of you comes anything other than love, it’s because that’s what you’ve allowed to be inside. Once you take away all those negative things you don’t want in your life and replace them with love, you’ll find yourself living a highly functioning life.

When dealing with cancer, let your insides have only positive love be squeezed out!

How To Manage Your Emotions When Having Cancer!

emotions girlDo you go on day after day and let emotions control you? Or do you control them?

It took me a long time to learn to control my emotions and stay positive in life. I’m so glad I did, because when I was diagnosed with breast cancer it tried to turn my life upside down.

Most of the doctors were negative, telling me you only have two choices, have a mastectomy or a lumpectomy and radiation. They sat me down asking me if I was ok, never telling me that it would be ok.

I believe, because of my positive attitude, I was able to keep my emotions in tact and beat the deadly disease of breast cancer. I can happily say now that I am cancer free!

Negative Emotions

Much of psychology and counseling focuses on how to regulate negative emotions, such as, negativity, anxiety, depression, anger and stress. Some of our closest friends and even our families can be very negative in our live.

Much of our life also includes the experience of positive emotions as well, and learning to regulate emotions such as joy, gratitude, and optimism. You need to start looking on the bright side of things, always being in a happy state of mind.

An article that was posted in the, Journal of Happiness Studies in 2007, reports that there are two main strategies when it comes to the regulation of positive emotions. These include maintaining or prolonging, and increasing or enhancing, positive emotional experiences.

Maintaining positive emotions

When we hear some great news, achieve something important to us, experience something inspiring and uplifting, this is when you need to find a way to make these feelings last. This helps us to get the most from positive emotions.

One thing that can be done is to simply share positive and pleasant news with others. As long as the other person is willing to embrace and validate our positive feelings, it gives us a chance to prolong our positive feelings. If you do share with a negative person, always be ready for a negative feedback.

Learning to savor positive feelings and experiences can really help you experience extended positive emotions. A few ways to savor positive emotions is to anticipate the upcoming experience, appreciate and fully engage in the moment, and reminisce about the experience afterwards.

Enhancing positive emotions

When things are going well in your life, this is a great opportunity to boost and enhance your positive emotional experiences. Cultivating gratitude is one way to do this. Consider the blessings in your life and really appreciate all the good things you have. Every day before you get out of bed, you should think of all the things you are grateful for.

A short exercise that I learned was to write on a piece of paper every day for twenty one days, three things that I am grateful for. Never repeating the same one twice. Try it for yourself; you will not believe how this one exercise will change your whole outlook on life, especially when dealing with cancer.

Learning to find positive meaning and value when there’s stress and adversity in our life, can also help us turn our emotional state around. Reframe and reappraise situations with a positive outlook. Find that silver lining and embrace that positive thought instead of the negative thought.

Do what you can to extract the most satisfaction from your positive feelings and you will find it easier to bounce back from negativity and keep positive throughout your day and throughout your life!

“Either You Run The Day, Or The Day Runs You!” Quote: Jim Rohnpositive

Happiness Is Not Something Magical!

smileyOne thing the philosopher’s have found is that, happiness is not something magical, even the smallest of things CAN make some people happy.

If you are one of those people who struggle to not only be happy, but to stay happy, here is a list of things that may help you.

One: Dance like no one is watching

Put on some of your favorite music and dance, dance, dance. The sheer fun of going against your normal activities and feeling the joy of your favorite music will turn your frown upside down. Especially if going through having cancer.

Now if some one is watching you, they may start laughing, but that’s ok, because now you’ve made someone else happy too.

Two: Count your blessings

When you start to think about all the things that are going wrong in your life, like having cancer, start counting your blessings. Think of all the things that you should be grateful for. When you make a list of things that you’re grateful for you tend to forget about all the bad stuff in your life and what got you down in the first place.

Three: Hula Hoop!

I bought a hula hoop because I heard it was great for exercising. Living full time in an RV is kind of hard to hit the gym everyday or carry weights around with you, so I bought a hula hoop. Not only did I loose weight, but hula hooping to music made me feel like a kid again. Of course, at first it wasn’t easy, I really had to laugh at myself, because I got a lot of bruises on my shins, but what fun! Try it some time, you really will feel like a kid again.

Four: Just Choose It!

Being happy is a mindset. So choose to be happy! We can all choose our own thought patterns. We can choose to put a smile on our face, to be positive rather than negative, to be upbeat rather than complaining.
If you have to do something that makes you unhappy, which at sometime or another we all do, just know that it will be done soon and we can become happy again. It’s much easier to accomplish something when you are happy and content, than it is when you are miserable. And the task that you don’t want to do, that makes you unhappy, will be done much faster.

Quote: Abraham Lincoln

“Most Folks are as happy as they make up their minds to be!”

happiness quote

The Eagle Changes To Survive, Will You?

This story I want to share today doesn’t have a lot to do with cancer, except for the fact that you do need to change your way of life. And,most importantly your thoughts, in order to beat the deadly beast, cancer! It’s a very inspiring story and I hope you enjoy it.

eagleThe Eagle

The eagle has the longest life span among birds. However when it ages into it‘s forties, it’s long and flexible talons can no longer grab prey, which serves as food. It’s long sharp beak becomes bent. The eagle has two choices, either die or go through a painful process of change that lasts 150 days.
This process requires that the eagle fly to a mountain top and sit on it’s nest. There the eagle knocks it’s beak against a rock until it can pluck it out. After plucking it out the eagle will wait there until a new beak grows back. Then it will pluck out it’s talons. When the new talons grow back, then the eagle will start plucking it’s old feathers out. AND after five months, the eagle takes it’s famous flight of rebirth and lives for another thirty years!

Why is all this change needed? The eagle changes to survive for a longer lifetime. We need to change for making our life a better place to live and become healthier.

In order to survive, we have to start a, change process. We sometimes need to get rid of old memories and old habits. We need to free ourselves from past burdens so we can take advantage of the present. We need to stop looking at life in a negative way, and start looking at it in a positive way.