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Live A Fulfilled Life!

You have the power to break through and live your life to the fullest. It’s your choice to take action now.  Start with a clean slate, take a chance, make a choice, Why? Because you deserve it.

There are 3 C’s in life, Choice, Chance and Change. “You must make a Choice to take a Chance or your life will never Change.

If you want a change in your life you need to choose to just go for something you want, instead of whatever life has given you.

Steve Jobs once said, “Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life.  Don’t be trapped by dogma – which is living with the results of other people’s thinking.  Don’t let the noise of others’ opinions drown out your own inner voice.  And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition.”

You are destined for greatness, but unless you make a choice to change your life, you’re never going to know.

You need to accept the fact that when you do decide to go for your dreams, there might be failures and naysayers. So you need to step away from the crowd and create your own path in life.  There will be failures, but that’s just part of the process, just like growing up, only then they called them, growing pains.

The founder of Amazon, Jeff Bezos, said: “I could accept failing, But I could not accept not trying… and never knowing what if.”

If you ever stop going for your dreams, how will you ever know if they would have become real?

All of us want a life that is magical, magnificent and one of fulfillment.  But many of us think that a magnificent life is something that happens, as if it is something done to us without us doing anything at all.  We think that a life of fulfillment is something reserved only for the lucky ones.  We can all have a life full of memorable moments and happiness regardless of our circumstances. You just have to believe it and want it.

“Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by the moments that take our breath away!”

Understand that when you feel dissatisfaction, that it is really the first step to a better life.  It is nature’s way of saying that there is something better out there for you, you just need to go out and find it.  Without hate, we would not know love.  Without tiredness, we would not know what energy felt like.  Without Darkness, we would not know how beautiful the sun is. Any champion will tell you that you must experience pain and discomfort along the way in order to achieve a great life. Accept that the pain is here to serve you and start looking at what the first step is you can take to make a change.

One way to feel great about your life, is look for more things to smile about in it.  No matter what it is or what happens to you, just SMILE.  You’ll be amazed at how much a smile can change your attitude and change the way others look at you.

 

What is The True Meaning For Happiness?

dictionaryWhile looking up the meaning of happiness, my brother happened to have a dictionary dated 1912, to this date means it is over 100 years old. It is called the ‘New Websterian 1912 Dictionary’. Based upon the unabridged dictionary of Noah Webster, LL.D.

The meaning of happiness in this dictionary is: The state of being happy; good fortune; felicitousness. There is also a meaning of, happify, didn’t really know it was a word, but it says: to make cheerful and happy.

What Good Is It To Have Everything If You’re Not Happy?

I think people have lost perspective of what true happiness is. People keep thinking, If I would just loose some weight I would be happy, If I could make more money I would be happy, If I was rich I would be happy, If I had better health, I would be happy. If I wouldn’t have gotten cancer, I would be happy! I could go on and on with different reasons of what people think they need or don’t need, in order to be happy.

Right now we live in an age of convenience. We have more conveniences than our ancestors could ever even dream of having. We have trains, planes, and fast automobiles. We have cell phones, and computers, at the touch of a button we can communicate with any one in the world. Yet with all these conveniences more people are unhappy and miserable today than a hundred years ago.

People are getting so caught up with chasing after the next big buck, with being rich that they forget the true meaning of a happy life.

Here’s a few of my favorite happy quotes:

Jumping for Joy is good exercise! ‘Unknown’

If you want to be happy, be. ‘Leo Tolstoy’

The best way to cheer yourself up, is to try to cheer somebody else up. ‘Mark Twain’

Most folks are about as happy as they make up their minds to be. ‘Abraham Lincoln’

We tend to forget that happiness doesn’t come as a result of getting something we don’t have, but rather of recognizing and appreciating what we do have. ‘Frederick Keonig’

A truly happy person is one that can enjoy the scenery while on a detour. ‘Unknown’

Cheerfulness is what greases the axles of the world. Don’t go through life creaking. ‘H.W. Byles’

Happiness always looks small while you hold it in your hands, but let it go, and you learn at once how precious it is. ‘Maxim Gorky’

For every minute you are angry, you lose sixty seconds of happiness! ‘Unknown’

All seasons are beautiful for the person who carries happiness within. ‘Horace Friess’

Happiness cannot come from without. It must come from within. It is not what we see and touch or that which others do for us which makes us happy; it is that which we think and feel and do, first for the other fellow and then for ourselves. ‘Helen Keller’smiley

Everyone has a different meaning of happiness in their life. I believe what Helen Keller quotes, Happy is that which we think and feel and do! So no matter what life throws at you, think good thoughts, so you feel good and in turn will do good things!

Peace Begins With A Smile!

begin with a smileMother Teresa said: “Every time you smile at someone, it is an action of love, a gift to that person, a beautiful thing”. “Peace begins with a Smile!”

Treat each day as if in order to survive, you must always be happy. This will not only affect your life, but all the lives around you.

Think back to when you did the most smiling, when you didn’t have to think so much about just surviving. Awwww, the years of being a child again, no problems and running around with nothing but a smile on your face.happy baby

What happened to all that smiling once we became an adult? As a child we we’re able to forgive quickly, not get so frustrated over the small things, enjoy the simple things in life and never take them for granted. We never held grudges against someone, because we would rather have fun playing with them.

I believe we were not put here on this earth to be miserable and live in survival mode every day. Sure, as an adult we face obstacles and challenges every day, but we need to learn to grow from them, not become negative because of them.

Our emotions become contagious to the people around us, whether it’s our family, friends, or strangers. We need to stay happy so that others will become effected by it. We’re only on this beautiful earth for a short time, we need to seize each and every day in an abundance of happiness.

From now on, when you wake up each morning, don’t be angry or sad, the day has just begun, BE HAPPY! Spring out of bed and hit the floor running like you did as a child. Make your new day a fun game, then the next day, play it again!

Life comes at you head on and very, very fast, when it does you have to be ready for it. Before you know it your day will be done, your week will be done and another year will be over. Your children will have children and your time on earth will come to an end as we know it.

big smilesI don’t know about you, but I plan on staying as happy as can be until that day comes for me. I know there will be bad days, sad days, negative days, and many obstacles, but that doesn’t mean that I have to accept them. Even with the loss of a child and having breast cancer,  I choose to play the game of life to it’s fullest in survival happiness with smiles for every one. How about You?

One Small Step!

stepHappiness really is a state of mind that you can choose if you want to. Learn to choose to focus on the things that make you happy in life, the things that go right, rather that the bad things. Bring the things that make you happy into full focus like a bright shining star and make them the bigger part of your life. It’s easy to do, one step at a time!

Think of it this way, when you stare into the big sky at night, would you rather see big black clouds or bright shiny stars? I would rather have bright shiny stars in my life!

When you start moving in the direction that makes you happy, it becomes just like swimming down river, freely and easily.

When you move more in the direction that makes you unhappy, it’s like swimming up river against the current. You become tired and run out of energy easily. I choose to be happy, how about you?

Life can be full of demands, overwhelms, frustrations, obstacles, sadness, and, of course, happiness. What is it you really want out of your life? And just how do you get it?

The very first thing you need to do is write down your wants. You might be saying right now, “It doesn’t matter what I want, I’m never going to get it!” Well, to be honest with you, with that type of attitude, you’re right, You won’t get what you want. You have to have a positive attitude towards what you want and know that you will get it.

Now, in order to get what you want, you have to take it one small step at a time. When I first thought about writing a book, I thought to my self, that’s just too big of a project, it will take me a life time. Then I heard someone say, “If you want to accomplish something in your life, take it one small step at a time. If it’s a book you want to write, just write one page a day and before you know it, you will have written your book!”

So that is exactly what I started doing, writing one page a day. Yes, there are some days that I skip, some times my creative side just doesn’t want to work, or life gets in the way. But as long as I managed to do my best and took that one small step, I knew I could accomplish finishing my book. And it really worked.

No matter what it is that you want out of life, taking that one small step can make a huge difference in your mindset. It can actually change your whole outlook on life. It can even start to relieve being overwhelmed at the task you want to accomplish, it can relieve some of the stress in your life and even depression.

Taking small steps at a time is a good way to approach the problems in your life too. Before you know it most of your problems will be gone, or they really weren’t any thing to worry about in the first place. You’ll also notice that your life becomes more happy, you’ll have a more positive outlook on your life and you’ll be getting those things that you really want.

“All great masters are chiefly distinguished by the power of adding a second, a third, and perhaps a fourth step in a continuous line. Many a man had taken the first step. With every additional step you enhance immensely the value of your first!” Quote: Ralph Waldo Emersonsmall step


What If?

dreamingThere are many days that you sit dreaming about “What If”!

What if I would have finished high school? What it I had decided on a career? What if I followed my dream? What If I get cancer? What If’s can drive you insane. You need to stop all the what if’s and think of all the great positive things in your life right now.

Right now you can use your broken dreams, disappointments and “what ifs” as stepping stones towards a better future. If you learn from your mistakes, and move forward, you will move forward toward a bigger and better future. Make the most out of today rather than the “What If’s” of yesterday!

So many people get stuck in the “should-a, would-a, could-a’s” and have a hard time forgiving themselves for not doing better in life. Self-forgiveness is vital for moving ahead in life rather than spending time living with a constant pull from the past. Forgive yourself for not knowing everything!

A person really never knows what might have happened if you had chosen the other path, it could even have been worse! We continue to think how things could have been better, rather than focus on what could have been worse! And believe me, things could have been worse.

Look ahead and step out of the “What If’s”! It’s not good to be stuck with unproductive regret. There’s a big difference between productive and unproductive regret. Unproductive regret keeps you focused on how the past would have been better, and productive regret helps you make better decisions as you look toward your future.

I once heard about, “The Swiss Cheese Theory of Life!”

You need to accept the fact that life is not smooth and predictable like American or Cream Cheese. Rather, it is more like Swiss cheese with all its characteristic holes. Interestingly enough, it is a fact that the bigger the holes in the Swiss, the more flavorful, sweeter and more distinctive the cheese. Using this as an analogy to our lives, we have the opportunity of getting stronger and developing more character when we get through large life “holes” and obstacles.’ So, with The Swiss Cheese Theory Of Life, you can feel more positive no matter what comes your way, and will be able to “SMILE AND SAY CHEESE!”smile say cheese

The Key To Being Happier!

smiling sunThere’s no magic potion, pill or antidote to make yourself happier.

A lot of people turn to alcohol or drugs to drown out the pain, but that is only a temporary fix. Alcohol is actually a depressant and in the long run can destroy your life and those around you. Taking drugs is even worse, the first high may make you feel happier than you’ve ever been, but there is and always will be a down side. You can also get hooked on hard drugs easier than alcohol and some will kill you.

I’ve watched someone destroy their life with drugs. She was the most beautiful girl, and very young. Not sure why she started taking drugs in the first place, as she had a beautiful baby boy, a fiancé, family and great friends. After only a few months of doing drugs, she had nothing more to do with anything, that included her one year old baby boy. To this day, Twelve years later, she is still some where on the streets doing drugs and looking like death is all around her. The sad part about alcohol and drugs is no one can help them, but themselves. They have to want to change, they need to change their emotions, without the use of substances.

So what is the key to being happier?

It’s your emotions. You have full control over your emotions. You can choose to be sad, angry, or happy. Controlling your emotions is literally the key to living a healthier, happier, and more abundant life.

When you let your emotions take control of how you feel, like stressed out, angry, depressed, it causes major turmoil in your life, which in turn makes it almost impossible to be happy. These negative emotions can be the death of you, they can prevent you from enjoying the things that make you happy.

You have to learn how to change your emotions, overcome all the negative energy around you. Change the negative energy into positive happy energy. Emotions actually carry a distinct energy that influences everything around us, change your emotions, change your life.

Take your happy life back again by controlling your emotions. It’s not all just about positive thinking, although it helps, but what you need to do is learn control. When a negative emotion enters into your life, change it with a positive emotion. Get your mind completely off being depressed and find something that makes you happy again.

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Dr. Wayne Dryer Will Be Missed By All!

dr. wayne dyerBecause I believe you need to hear inspirational messages and stay positive to beat cancer, I just had to post this about Dr. Wayne Dryer.

Dr. Wayne W. Dyer, the best-selling self-help guru and author of 30 books is now in heaven looking over us. He will be missed!

Dr. Wayne Dyer was speaking at a conference one day about an orange, this is what was said:

“I was preparing to speak at an I Can Do It conference and I decided to bring an orange on stage with me as a prop for my lecture. I opened a conversation with a bright young fellow of about twelve who was sitting in the front row.
“If I were to squeeze this orange as hard as I could, what would come out?” I asked him.
He looked at me like I was a little crazy and said, “Juice, of course.”
“Do you think apple juice could come out of it?”
“No!” he laughed.
“What about grapefruit juice?”
“No!”
“What would come out of it?”
“Orange juice, of course.”
“Why? Why when you squeeze an orange does orange juice come out?”
He may have been getting a little exasperated with me at this point.
“Well, it’s an orange and that’s what’s inside.”
I nodded. “Let’s assume that this orange isn’t an orange, but it’s you. And someone squeezes you, puts pressure on you, says something you don’t like, offends you. And out of you comes anger, hatred, bitterness, fear. Why? The answer, as our young friend has told us, is because that’s what’s inside.”oranges
It’s one of the great lessons of life. What comes out when life squeezes you? When someone hurts or offends you? If anger, pain and fear come out of you, it’s because that’s what’s inside. It doesn’t matter who does the squeezing—your mother, your brother, your children, your boss, the government. If someone says something about you that you don’t like, what comes out of you is what’s inside. And what’s inside is up to you, it’s your choice.
When someone puts the pressure on you and out of you comes anything other than love, it’s because that’s what you’ve allowed to be inside. Once you take away all those negative things you don’t want in your life and replace them with love, you’ll find yourself living a highly functioning life.

When dealing with cancer, let your insides have only positive love be squeezed out!