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4 Tips On Staying Positive!

bright sideOne: When something bad happens, take a deep breath, don’t overreact and then think about what the worst outcome could be. Think of the bright side of what happened. Believe it or not there always is a bright side, whether you think so at the time or not.

Albert Einstein said: “In the middle of every difficulty, lies opportunity.”

Two: Realize how bad you feel when you are having negative feelings. Is it really worth it? Now realize how awesome you feel and how beautiful life really looks when you are having positive feelings. I know it’s hard sometimes to go from feeling bad to feeling good, but it can be done. The best way to change your feelings is to think of something that makes you happy and then go there in your mind.

Three: The worst thing you can ever do, is to watch all the garbage that is going on in the news, whether it is on the television or in the news paper. It’s ok to know what is going on in the world, but don’t indulge yourself in it, especially when it is negative. All that does is make you feel worse and think that there is never going to be an end to all the bad stuff happening to you. Instead of listening or reading bad news, read a motivational book, or watch a comedy. You will be surprised at how your feelings will change, when you sit there and laugh until you cry at a funny movie.

Four: Most of all, stay away from negative people and situations. The last thing you need when you’re feeling down is someone else that is down. Get around up beat happy people. When I had to go through my radiation treatments for my breast cancer, the staff was the most inspiring, upbeat, and happy people I have ever come across.  What a difference it made having to go through radiation every day.

It really can be hard staying positive in such a negative world. But, if you really open your eyes and your heart, there is a million to one in positive energy versus negative energy around you, if you let it in!positive energy

Scientists have done research and that if you have at least 5 positive thoughts versus negative thoughts, that it is better for your heart, and immune system. Having a great heart and immune system is a great start in dealing with cancer.

With The Economy Going To Hell, How Can You Stay Positive?

Research indicates that, at the subconscious level, our minds have a tendency to focus on the optimistic while, at the conscious level, we have a tendency to focus on the negative.bad attitude

Let’s face it, life can be hard, but why make it harder by facing it with a bad attitude as well?

Charles Dickens wrote, “There is always something to be thankful for.”
There are so many hardships going on in the world today. Our economy is in the worst recession ever. Our dollar is loosing it’s value. More people are out of work than ever. There are more homeless families than there have ever been before. It seems like every time you turn a corner some one is getting cancer. With all this in life going on,and the world going to hell, how ever can a person continue to stay positive?

I was one of those, like so many thousands of other people, who got knocked down when the fall of the real estate market came. Everything was lost, so I felt! The only thing that kept me going was to stay positive no matter how hard it was to do.

I had to keep telling myself that this was not the end. That this was NOT how my life was suppose to be. I had to knock out the negative noise that was in my head and focus on only the positive.

Eventually things got a little better, then I got breast cancer. Talk about a blow to positive thinking! You start questioning yourself, “How can this be happening?” “Why Me?”, “Is there any thing else you want to throw at me?”

I had to think long and hard about this one. What good would it be to become negative now? There really could be many more things that could go wrong. I learned to put a smile back on my face, be happy and stay positive no matter what. I beat that nasty old breast cancer, and my life is getting better and better.

It’s a must now days to find something to be positive about in your life. The best way to do that is to be thankful for what you now have, no matter how small it might be. Even though I lost everything when the real estate market crashed, and then had breast cancer, I still had so much to be grateful for! I was still alive and learned to enjoy the things around me.

“Once you replace the negative thoughts with positive ones you’ll start having positive results!”‘Quote: Willie Nelson’

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You Can Absolutely Beat, Prevent, and Treat Cancer!

cancer ribbonI just received an email from, Nick Ortner, “The Tapping Solution”

He tells me about, Ty Bollinger! Weather you know him or not, this is a very important message to hear!

If you have cancer or anyone in your family have cancer, or if anyone you know has died from cancer, THIS IS VERY IMPORTANT!

I know for a fact after having cancer myself; I will at least listen to anyone that may have a treatment for cancer. Especially if the message is free, you can take it or leave it.

This is what he says: “I’m sorry, there’s nothing else we can do…” — 38,356 patients hear this EVERY DAY, Worldwide – and unfortunately, 21,918 of them will pass away each day.
This means that at least thirty (30) people will have passed away by the time you finish reading this page.
It’s horrifying and I’m here to tell you that it doesn’t have to be this way.
And I’m going to share with you the best preventions and treatments from all over the world — absolutely free starting on October 13th 9:00 EST.
Please share this message, as I have on Facebook, I believe it is so important!
Click here for the Link!
I do hope the link works, as I think everyone should listen to this series, I know I am!

How To Have An Epic Life During Cancer!

cancer ribbonGetting told, “You have Cancer”, can be devastating to you and your family.

I have been in that position myself. You start guessing how your life is going to be. Am I going to die?, Am I going to continue to work in order to pay the bills?, Am I going to get to see my kids or grand kids finish growing up? The biggest question I had, was, How am I going to pay for treatments? I had no insurance.

With all these questions rolling around in your head, can you still enjoy an epic life? I say, YES!, and the reason WHY, is simple! YOU GET TO MAKE YOUR OWN CHOICE IN LIFE!

You might be saying, “But I didn’t choose to get cancer! I don’t have a choice if I die because of cancer! My answer is, “Your right, but you can certainly choose the HOW in how you want to live throughout the rest of your life now.

You have a choice to be happy or sad today. You have a choice what to wear today. You have a choice of what to eat. You have a choice of how you want to deal with your cancer.
If faced with choices and you leave it up to someone else to decide, you have given away all of your power. Don’t give your power away to cancer. BEAT IT!beat defeat We are human, and we have the ability to choose what makes us unique and how we live our life.
You know what’s going to happen when you don’t choose a happy life? You’re going to bitch and complain that life really sucks right now. You’re going to hate life. Life will always be a struggle. And by making that negative choice, you give more power to cancer.
Your life should be filled with laughter, love, family, friends, gratitude, giving and excitement. Sure there will be rough times, but you can’t let that ruin your enjoyment of life.

It’s really sad that no one has completely come up with a cure for cancer. It’s taken the life of every age possible. I was one of the lucky ones that survived breast cancer! My mom survived Lymphoma cancer at the age of 75. Unfortunately, my best friend died of melanoma cancer at the age of 50. Another good friend of mine died of prostate cancer at the age of 67.

I know babies don’t understand this, but they can feel the positive energy of adults around them. I believe that as adults, if we keep a positive energy around us at all times during cancer, we will survive. I believe that was the biggest difference between my best friend and I during cancer. She gave up, and I refused to!

I believe that even during cancer, you can have an EPIC life. You just have to choose it!choose

Can YOU Learn To Be Happy?

happy girl in flowersSome people are just born happy and stay happy throughout their life. Others see nothing but negativity in life and are depressed. Those people that just seem to hate life, can they learn to be happy too? Can YOU?

A professor of positive psychology at George Mason University in Virginia, Todd Kashdan, also author of Curious, says, “What truly provides satisfaction is having a meaning and purpose in life, which is doubly important in the midst of this current economic nightmare.

I totally agree with his statement. With our economy in such a down spin, it makes it really hard to find the positive side of things. But, it you find you have a purpose in life, then that’s all you’ll focus on.
You’ll wind up not worrying about everything else that’s going on in the world. That doesn’t mean you don’t care, it just means you have better things in life to do than worry about all the negative things.

Todd Kashdan also says, “We need to move away from the concept of trying to fill our days with frequent pleasurable moments and fewer negative moments.” In other words, fill your day with sunshine and fun, with happiness and joy, and stay away from the negative.

There will always be a lot of negativity in life. When the real estate market crashed and the stock market spiraled downward, a lot of people lost their life savings. They became unable to make their mortgage payments, car payments, and went into credit card debt big time. I know how that feels, as I was one.

The thing you have to do in this situation is just deal with it. Never, ever, put all your thoughts on it. Instead of thinking of all your debt, think of a solution! There is a solution for every problem, Math 101! Don’t ever beat yourself up over what has happened in your life, move ahead and find the happiness you deserve. Everyone was born in this world to be happy, including YOU!

This blog post is a short version of one of the chapters in my book. If you would like to read more, I’m listed on Amazon.

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What Is The Meaning Of Happiness?

little girl happyWhile looking up the meaning of happiness, my brother happened to have a dictionary dated 1912,  over 100 years old. It is called the ‘New Websterian 1912 Dictionary’. Based upon the unabridged dictionary of Noah Webster, LL.D.

The meaning of happiness in this dictionary is: The state of being happy; good fortune; felicitousness. There is also a meaning of, happify, didn’t really know it was a word, but it says: to make cheerful and happy.

What Good Is It To Have Everything If You’re Not Happy?

I think people have lost perspective of what true happiness is. People keep thinking, If I would just loose some weight I would be happy, If I could make more money I would be happy, If I was rich I would be happy, If I had better health, I would be happy. I could go on and on with different reasons of what people think they need in order to be happy.

Right now we live in an age of convenience. We have more conveniences than our ancestors could ever even dream of having. We have trains, planes, and fast automobiles. We have cell phones, and computers, at the touch of a button we can communicate with any one in the world. Yet with all these conveniences more people are unhappy and miserable today than a hundred years ago.

People are getting so caught up with chasing after the next big buck, with being rich that they forget the true meaning of a happy life. What good is it to have everything if you’re not happy?

Jack LaLanne made a video a few years ago and in it he talks about being happy. He said if you look around you when you’re on a bus or walking down the street, you’ll notice the bigger majority of people have frowns on their faces, they’ve completely lost the ability to smile. They may be driving the fanciest car, or wearing the most expensive suit, or have all the money in the world, but they’re not happy. Why is this?

He tells a story of being on a street car, where this lady wore ragged clothes, torn dress and carrying a baby. She sat down on the bus, started nursing the baby and then started singing, everyone on the street car started singing, including Jack LaLanne. He said almost all the people on the street car were poor, they had little food, little money, no fancy cars, but they were happy. So what good does it do to have all the major convinces in life, the fancy cars, the fancy suits, lots of money, if you can’t be happy? It makes no sense to Jack Lalanne, it makes no sense to me.

Jack Lalanne’s whole focus in life is exercise, eating right and being happy. He says you need to exercise, without exercise everything is hanging and drooping, including your smile. He says, “Let’s get back to the way nature intended us to be, really enjoying everything we have in this great land of ours, and really appreciate it twenty four hours a day. You must choose to be happy, and live your day as if it was your last!happy baby

Happiness cannot come from without. It must come from within. It is not what we see and touch or that which others do for us which makes us happy; it is that which we think and feel and do, first for the other fellow and then for ourselves. ‘Helen Keller’

I truly believe that one of the ways to fight cancer is to stay in a happy frame of mind, ALWAYS BE HAPPY! I believe it helped me fight breast cancer and now basil cell cancer.

The Key To Being Happier!

smiling sunThere’s no magic potion, pill or antidote to make yourself happier.

A lot of people turn to alcohol or drugs to drown out the pain, but that is only a temporary fix. Alcohol is actually a depressant and in the long run can destroy your life and those around you. Taking drugs is even worse, the first high may make you feel happier than you’ve ever been, but there is and always will be a down side. You can also get hooked on hard drugs easier than alcohol and some will kill you.

I’ve watched someone destroy their life with drugs. She was the most beautiful girl, and very young. Not sure why she started taking drugs in the first place, as she had a beautiful baby boy, a fiancé, family and great friends. After only a few months of doing drugs, she had nothing more to do with anything, that included her one year old baby boy. To this day, Twelve years later, she is still some where on the streets doing drugs and looking like death is all around her. The sad part about alcohol and drugs is no one can help them, but themselves. They have to want to change, they need to change their emotions, without the use of substances.

So what is the key to being happier?

It’s your emotions. You have full control over your emotions. You can choose to be sad, angry, or happy. Controlling your emotions is literally the key to living a healthier, happier, and more abundant life.

When you let your emotions take control of how you feel, like stressed out, angry, depressed, it causes major turmoil in your life, which in turn makes it almost impossible to be happy. These negative emotions can be the death of you, they can prevent you from enjoying the things that make you happy.

You have to learn how to change your emotions, overcome all the negative energy around you. Change the negative energy into positive happy energy. Emotions actually carry a distinct energy that influences everything around us, change your emotions, change your life.

Take your happy life back again by controlling your emotions. It’s not all just about positive thinking, although it helps, but what you need to do is learn control. When a negative emotion enters into your life, change it with a positive emotion. Get your mind completely off being depressed and find something that makes you happy again.

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Have Courage Over Cancer!

cancer ribbonI just came across this quote today and had to share it!

“I learned that courage was not the absence of fear, but the triumph over it. The brave man is not he who does not feel afraid, but he who conquers that fear.”
― Nelson Mandela

We all fear cancer!  But instead of having fear, we need to have courage over it! If we conquer our fear of cancer, as far as I’m concerned, WE WIN!!

How To Manage Your Emotions When Having Cancer!

emotions girlDo you go on day after day and let emotions control you? Or do you control them?

It took me a long time to learn to control my emotions and stay positive in life. I’m so glad I did, because when I was diagnosed with breast cancer it tried to turn my life upside down.

Most of the doctors were negative, telling me you only have two choices, have a mastectomy or a lumpectomy and radiation. They sat me down asking me if I was ok, never telling me that it would be ok.

I believe, because of my positive attitude, I was able to keep my emotions in tact and beat the deadly disease of breast cancer. I can happily say now that I am cancer free!

Negative Emotions

Much of psychology and counseling focuses on how to regulate negative emotions, such as, negativity, anxiety, depression, anger and stress. Some of our closest friends and even our families can be very negative in our live.

Much of our life also includes the experience of positive emotions as well, and learning to regulate emotions such as joy, gratitude, and optimism. You need to start looking on the bright side of things, always being in a happy state of mind.

An article that was posted in the, Journal of Happiness Studies in 2007, reports that there are two main strategies when it comes to the regulation of positive emotions. These include maintaining or prolonging, and increasing or enhancing, positive emotional experiences.

Maintaining positive emotions

When we hear some great news, achieve something important to us, experience something inspiring and uplifting, this is when you need to find a way to make these feelings last. This helps us to get the most from positive emotions.

One thing that can be done is to simply share positive and pleasant news with others. As long as the other person is willing to embrace and validate our positive feelings, it gives us a chance to prolong our positive feelings. If you do share with a negative person, always be ready for a negative feedback.

Learning to savor positive feelings and experiences can really help you experience extended positive emotions. A few ways to savor positive emotions is to anticipate the upcoming experience, appreciate and fully engage in the moment, and reminisce about the experience afterwards.

Enhancing positive emotions

When things are going well in your life, this is a great opportunity to boost and enhance your positive emotional experiences. Cultivating gratitude is one way to do this. Consider the blessings in your life and really appreciate all the good things you have. Every day before you get out of bed, you should think of all the things you are grateful for.

A short exercise that I learned was to write on a piece of paper every day for twenty one days, three things that I am grateful for. Never repeating the same one twice. Try it for yourself; you will not believe how this one exercise will change your whole outlook on life, especially when dealing with cancer.

Learning to find positive meaning and value when there’s stress and adversity in our life, can also help us turn our emotional state around. Reframe and reappraise situations with a positive outlook. Find that silver lining and embrace that positive thought instead of the negative thought.

Do what you can to extract the most satisfaction from your positive feelings and you will find it easier to bounce back from negativity and keep positive throughout your day and throughout your life!

“Either You Run The Day, Or The Day Runs You!” Quote: Jim Rohnpositive

Go Nuts For Cancer!

I receive emails from a Doctor on occasion, ‘Dr. Al Sears MD. A lot of what he has researched, and has to say about your body and cancer is very informative.
Here is one of his articles on eating walnuts for cancer prevention.walnuts
“I’ve also been telling my patients for years that a handful of walnuts a day is an excellent source of ALA … especially for cancer prevention.
Previous studies found that extract of omega-3 rich walnuts stopped the spread of breast cancer cells.
In another study, the walnut-sourced omega 3 supplementation given to mice bred to have breast cancer was able to prevent breast cancer from developing.
Now a new study reveals the cancer-fighting benefits of walnuts and omega-3 oils go beyond breast cancer.
The recent study, which looked at walnuts and colon cancer, showed that compounds in walnuts caused protective omega 3 fatty acids to congregate in the tumor cells of mice.
And the effect of these concentrated omega 3s was powerful. It reduced the inflammation of tumors and cut off their blood supply. In short, it slowed the growth of the tumors.

So, how do you get things back in balance?balance your life
First, return to the diet of our ancestors. You should eliminate or strictly limit your intake of sugar, grains and processed foods.
Civilizations and societies may have changed over the past 5,000 years, but our anatomy and physiology have not. And our bodies did not evolve to consume any of these foods.
Second, always opt for grass-fed beef and wild salmon for abundant natural sources of omega-3 oils.
Finally, as a crusader against one of America’s biggest killers, I recommend walnuts to my patients – because these incredible nuts contain a sizable amount of alpha-linolenic acid (ALA).
And research from the latest study suggests walnuts – thanks to their high ALA content – may be a key ingredient in limiting tumor size.
feel like a nutSo the next time you feel like a nut, make it a walnut.
‘Quoted by: Dr. Al Sears, MD’