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How To Have An Epic Life During Cancer!

cancer ribbonGetting told, “You have Cancer”, can be devastating to you and your family.

I have been in that position myself. You start guessing how your life is going to be. Am I going to die?, Am I going to continue to work in order to pay the bills?, Am I going to get to see my kids or grand kids finish growing up? The biggest question I had, was, How am I going to pay for treatments? I had no insurance.

With all these questions rolling around in your head, can you still enjoy an epic life? I say, YES!, and the reason WHY, is simple! YOU GET TO MAKE YOUR OWN CHOICE IN LIFE!

You might be saying, “But I didn’t choose to get cancer! I don’t have a choice if I die because of cancer! My answer is, “Your right, but you can certainly choose the HOW in how you want to live throughout the rest of your life now.

You have a choice to be happy or sad today. You have a choice what to wear today. You have a choice of what to eat. You have a choice of how you want to deal with your cancer.
If faced with choices and you leave it up to someone else to decide, you have given away all of your power. Don’t give your power away to cancer. BEAT IT!beat defeat We are human, and we have the ability to choose what makes us unique and how we live our life.
You know what’s going to happen when you don’t choose a happy life? You’re going to bitch and complain that life really sucks right now. You’re going to hate life. Life will always be a struggle. And by making that negative choice, you give more power to cancer.
Your life should be filled with laughter, love, family, friends, gratitude, giving and excitement. Sure there will be rough times, but you can’t let that ruin your enjoyment of life.

It’s really sad that no one has completely come up with a cure for cancer. It’s taken the life of every age possible. I was one of the lucky ones that survived breast cancer! My mom survived Lymphoma cancer at the age of 75. Unfortunately, my best friend died of melanoma cancer at the age of 50. Another good friend of mine died of prostate cancer at the age of 67.

I know babies don’t understand this, but they can feel the positive energy of adults around them. I believe that as adults, if we keep a positive energy around us at all times during cancer, we will survive. I believe that was the biggest difference between my best friend and I during cancer. She gave up, and I refused to!

I believe that even during cancer, you can have an EPIC life. You just have to choose it!choose

Can YOU Learn To Be Happy?

happy girl in flowersSome people are just born happy and stay happy throughout their life. Others see nothing but negativity in life and are depressed. Those people that just seem to hate life, can they learn to be happy too? Can YOU?

A professor of positive psychology at George Mason University in Virginia, Todd Kashdan, also author of Curious, says, “What truly provides satisfaction is having a meaning and purpose in life, which is doubly important in the midst of this current economic nightmare.

I totally agree with his statement. With our economy in such a down spin, it makes it really hard to find the positive side of things. But, it you find you have a purpose in life, then that’s all you’ll focus on.
You’ll wind up not worrying about everything else that’s going on in the world. That doesn’t mean you don’t care, it just means you have better things in life to do than worry about all the negative things.

Todd Kashdan also says, “We need to move away from the concept of trying to fill our days with frequent pleasurable moments and fewer negative moments.” In other words, fill your day with sunshine and fun, with happiness and joy, and stay away from the negative.

There will always be a lot of negativity in life. When the real estate market crashed and the stock market spiraled downward, a lot of people lost their life savings. They became unable to make their mortgage payments, car payments, and went into credit card debt big time. I know how that feels, as I was one.

The thing you have to do in this situation is just deal with it. Never, ever, put all your thoughts on it. Instead of thinking of all your debt, think of a solution! There is a solution for every problem, Math 101! Don’t ever beat yourself up over what has happened in your life, move ahead and find the happiness you deserve. Everyone was born in this world to be happy, including YOU!

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The Key To Being Happier!

smiling sunThere’s no magic potion, pill or antidote to make yourself happier.

A lot of people turn to alcohol or drugs to drown out the pain, but that is only a temporary fix. Alcohol is actually a depressant and in the long run can destroy your life and those around you. Taking drugs is even worse, the first high may make you feel happier than you’ve ever been, but there is and always will be a down side. You can also get hooked on hard drugs easier than alcohol and some will kill you.

I’ve watched someone destroy their life with drugs. She was the most beautiful girl, and very young. Not sure why she started taking drugs in the first place, as she had a beautiful baby boy, a fiancé, family and great friends. After only a few months of doing drugs, she had nothing more to do with anything, that included her one year old baby boy. To this day, Twelve years later, she is still some where on the streets doing drugs and looking like death is all around her. The sad part about alcohol and drugs is no one can help them, but themselves. They have to want to change, they need to change their emotions, without the use of substances.

So what is the key to being happier?

It’s your emotions. You have full control over your emotions. You can choose to be sad, angry, or happy. Controlling your emotions is literally the key to living a healthier, happier, and more abundant life.

When you let your emotions take control of how you feel, like stressed out, angry, depressed, it causes major turmoil in your life, which in turn makes it almost impossible to be happy. These negative emotions can be the death of you, they can prevent you from enjoying the things that make you happy.

You have to learn how to change your emotions, overcome all the negative energy around you. Change the negative energy into positive happy energy. Emotions actually carry a distinct energy that influences everything around us, change your emotions, change your life.

Take your happy life back again by controlling your emotions. It’s not all just about positive thinking, although it helps, but what you need to do is learn control. When a negative emotion enters into your life, change it with a positive emotion. Get your mind completely off being depressed and find something that makes you happy again.

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How To Manage Your Emotions When Having Cancer!

emotions girlDo you go on day after day and let emotions control you? Or do you control them?

It took me a long time to learn to control my emotions and stay positive in life. I’m so glad I did, because when I was diagnosed with breast cancer it tried to turn my life upside down.

Most of the doctors were negative, telling me you only have two choices, have a mastectomy or a lumpectomy and radiation. They sat me down asking me if I was ok, never telling me that it would be ok.

I believe, because of my positive attitude, I was able to keep my emotions in tact and beat the deadly disease of breast cancer. I can happily say now that I am cancer free!

Negative Emotions

Much of psychology and counseling focuses on how to regulate negative emotions, such as, negativity, anxiety, depression, anger and stress. Some of our closest friends and even our families can be very negative in our live.

Much of our life also includes the experience of positive emotions as well, and learning to regulate emotions such as joy, gratitude, and optimism. You need to start looking on the bright side of things, always being in a happy state of mind.

An article that was posted in the, Journal of Happiness Studies in 2007, reports that there are two main strategies when it comes to the regulation of positive emotions. These include maintaining or prolonging, and increasing or enhancing, positive emotional experiences.

Maintaining positive emotions

When we hear some great news, achieve something important to us, experience something inspiring and uplifting, this is when you need to find a way to make these feelings last. This helps us to get the most from positive emotions.

One thing that can be done is to simply share positive and pleasant news with others. As long as the other person is willing to embrace and validate our positive feelings, it gives us a chance to prolong our positive feelings. If you do share with a negative person, always be ready for a negative feedback.

Learning to savor positive feelings and experiences can really help you experience extended positive emotions. A few ways to savor positive emotions is to anticipate the upcoming experience, appreciate and fully engage in the moment, and reminisce about the experience afterwards.

Enhancing positive emotions

When things are going well in your life, this is a great opportunity to boost and enhance your positive emotional experiences. Cultivating gratitude is one way to do this. Consider the blessings in your life and really appreciate all the good things you have. Every day before you get out of bed, you should think of all the things you are grateful for.

A short exercise that I learned was to write on a piece of paper every day for twenty one days, three things that I am grateful for. Never repeating the same one twice. Try it for yourself; you will not believe how this one exercise will change your whole outlook on life, especially when dealing with cancer.

Learning to find positive meaning and value when there’s stress and adversity in our life, can also help us turn our emotional state around. Reframe and reappraise situations with a positive outlook. Find that silver lining and embrace that positive thought instead of the negative thought.

Do what you can to extract the most satisfaction from your positive feelings and you will find it easier to bounce back from negativity and keep positive throughout your day and throughout your life!

“Either You Run The Day, Or The Day Runs You!” Quote: Jim Rohnpositive

Happiness Is Not Something Magical!

smileyOne thing the philosopher’s have found is that, happiness is not something magical, even the smallest of things CAN make some people happy.

If you are one of those people who struggle to not only be happy, but to stay happy, here is a list of things that may help you.

One: Dance like no one is watching

Put on some of your favorite music and dance, dance, dance. The sheer fun of going against your normal activities and feeling the joy of your favorite music will turn your frown upside down. Especially if going through having cancer.

Now if some one is watching you, they may start laughing, but that’s ok, because now you’ve made someone else happy too.

Two: Count your blessings

When you start to think about all the things that are going wrong in your life, like having cancer, start counting your blessings. Think of all the things that you should be grateful for. When you make a list of things that you’re grateful for you tend to forget about all the bad stuff in your life and what got you down in the first place.

Three: Hula Hoop!

I bought a hula hoop because I heard it was great for exercising. Living full time in an RV is kind of hard to hit the gym everyday or carry weights around with you, so I bought a hula hoop. Not only did I loose weight, but hula hooping to music made me feel like a kid again. Of course, at first it wasn’t easy, I really had to laugh at myself, because I got a lot of bruises on my shins, but what fun! Try it some time, you really will feel like a kid again.

Four: Just Choose It!

Being happy is a mindset. So choose to be happy! We can all choose our own thought patterns. We can choose to put a smile on our face, to be positive rather than negative, to be upbeat rather than complaining.
If you have to do something that makes you unhappy, which at sometime or another we all do, just know that it will be done soon and we can become happy again. It’s much easier to accomplish something when you are happy and content, than it is when you are miserable. And the task that you don’t want to do, that makes you unhappy, will be done much faster.

Quote: Abraham Lincoln

“Most Folks are as happy as they make up their minds to be!”

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Go Nuts For Cancer!

I receive emails from a Doctor on occasion, ‘Dr. Al Sears MD. A lot of what he has researched, and has to say about your body and cancer is very informative.
Here is one of his articles on eating walnuts for cancer prevention.walnuts
“I’ve also been telling my patients for years that a handful of walnuts a day is an excellent source of ALA … especially for cancer prevention.
Previous studies found that extract of omega-3 rich walnuts stopped the spread of breast cancer cells.
In another study, the walnut-sourced omega 3 supplementation given to mice bred to have breast cancer was able to prevent breast cancer from developing.
Now a new study reveals the cancer-fighting benefits of walnuts and omega-3 oils go beyond breast cancer.
The recent study, which looked at walnuts and colon cancer, showed that compounds in walnuts caused protective omega 3 fatty acids to congregate in the tumor cells of mice.
And the effect of these concentrated omega 3s was powerful. It reduced the inflammation of tumors and cut off their blood supply. In short, it slowed the growth of the tumors.

So, how do you get things back in balance?balance your life
First, return to the diet of our ancestors. You should eliminate or strictly limit your intake of sugar, grains and processed foods.
Civilizations and societies may have changed over the past 5,000 years, but our anatomy and physiology have not. And our bodies did not evolve to consume any of these foods.
Second, always opt for grass-fed beef and wild salmon for abundant natural sources of omega-3 oils.
Finally, as a crusader against one of America’s biggest killers, I recommend walnuts to my patients – because these incredible nuts contain a sizable amount of alpha-linolenic acid (ALA).
And research from the latest study suggests walnuts – thanks to their high ALA content – may be a key ingredient in limiting tumor size.
feel like a nutSo the next time you feel like a nut, make it a walnut.
‘Quoted by: Dr. Al Sears, MD’

The Eagle Changes To Survive, Will You?

This story I want to share today doesn’t have a lot to do with cancer, except for the fact that you do need to change your way of life. And,most importantly your thoughts, in order to beat the deadly beast, cancer! It’s a very inspiring story and I hope you enjoy it.

eagleThe Eagle

The eagle has the longest life span among birds. However when it ages into it‘s forties, it’s long and flexible talons can no longer grab prey, which serves as food. It’s long sharp beak becomes bent. The eagle has two choices, either die or go through a painful process of change that lasts 150 days.
This process requires that the eagle fly to a mountain top and sit on it’s nest. There the eagle knocks it’s beak against a rock until it can pluck it out. After plucking it out the eagle will wait there until a new beak grows back. Then it will pluck out it’s talons. When the new talons grow back, then the eagle will start plucking it’s old feathers out. AND after five months, the eagle takes it’s famous flight of rebirth and lives for another thirty years!

Why is all this change needed? The eagle changes to survive for a longer lifetime. We need to change for making our life a better place to live and become healthier.

In order to survive, we have to start a, change process. We sometimes need to get rid of old memories and old habits. We need to free ourselves from past burdens so we can take advantage of the present. We need to stop looking at life in a negative way, and start looking at it in a positive way.