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4 Tips On Staying Positive!

bright sideOne: When something bad happens, take a deep breath, don’t overreact and then think about what the worst outcome could be. Think of the bright side of what happened. Believe it or not there always is a bright side, whether you think so at the time or not.

Albert Einstein said: “In the middle of every difficulty, lies opportunity.”

Two: Realize how bad you feel when you are having negative feelings. Is it really worth it? Now realize how awesome you feel and how beautiful life really looks when you are having positive feelings. I know it’s hard sometimes to go from feeling bad to feeling good, but it can be done. The best way to change your feelings is to think of something that makes you happy and then go there in your mind.

Three: The worst thing you can ever do, is to watch all the garbage that is going on in the news, whether it is on the television or in the news paper. It’s ok to know what is going on in the world, but don’t indulge yourself in it, especially when it is negative. All that does is make you feel worse and think that there is never going to be an end to all the bad stuff happening to you. Instead of listening or reading bad news, read a motivational book, or watch a comedy. You will be surprised at how your feelings will change, when you sit there and laugh until you cry at a funny movie.

Four: Most of all, stay away from negative people and situations. The last thing you need when you’re feeling down is someone else that is down. Get around up beat happy people. When I had to go through my radiation treatments for my breast cancer, the staff was the most inspiring, upbeat, and happy people I have ever come across.  What a difference it made having to go through radiation every day.

It really can be hard staying positive in such a negative world. But, if you really open your eyes and your heart, there is a million to one in positive energy versus negative energy around you, if you let it in!positive energy

Scientists have done research and that if you have at least 5 positive thoughts versus negative thoughts, that it is better for your heart, and immune system. Having a great heart and immune system is a great start in dealing with cancer.

What If?

dreamingThere are many days that you sit dreaming about “What If”!

What if I would have finished high school? What it I had decided on a career? What if I followed my dream? What If I get cancer? What If’s can drive you insane. You need to stop all the what if’s and think of all the great positive things in your life right now.

Right now you can use your broken dreams, disappointments and “what ifs” as stepping stones towards a better future. If you learn from your mistakes, and move forward, you will move forward toward a bigger and better future. Make the most out of today rather than the “What If’s” of yesterday!

So many people get stuck in the “should-a, would-a, could-a’s” and have a hard time forgiving themselves for not doing better in life. Self-forgiveness is vital for moving ahead in life rather than spending time living with a constant pull from the past. Forgive yourself for not knowing everything!

A person really never knows what might have happened if you had chosen the other path, it could even have been worse! We continue to think how things could have been better, rather than focus on what could have been worse! And believe me, things could have been worse.

Look ahead and step out of the “What If’s”! It’s not good to be stuck with unproductive regret. There’s a big difference between productive and unproductive regret. Unproductive regret keeps you focused on how the past would have been better, and productive regret helps you make better decisions as you look toward your future.

I once heard about, “The Swiss Cheese Theory of Life!”

You need to accept the fact that life is not smooth and predictable like American or Cream Cheese. Rather, it is more like Swiss cheese with all its characteristic holes. Interestingly enough, it is a fact that the bigger the holes in the Swiss, the more flavorful, sweeter and more distinctive the cheese. Using this as an analogy to our lives, we have the opportunity of getting stronger and developing more character when we get through large life “holes” and obstacles.’ So, with The Swiss Cheese Theory Of Life, you can feel more positive no matter what comes your way, and will be able to “SMILE AND SAY CHEESE!”smile say cheese

What Is Your Happy?

Everyone has a different HAPPY.  happy baby

Some people find happiness in pleasing others, while others find happiness in power and domination.

Some people define their happy as a billion dollars.

Others think the way to happiness and a meaningful life is to get closer to God and give up everything material.

Still others think the ultimate idea of happiness is freedom!

What is your ‘HAPPY’?

I’m taking a positive psychology class, and they say that their are 10 positive emotions. Believe it or not Happy is not one of them. Happy is a broad term that describes a lot of emotions.

The top 10 positive emotions are:

Joy, Gratitude, Serenity, Interest, Hope, Pride, Amusement, Inspiration, Awe and LOVE!

Maybe that’s why they say, “Everyone has a different happy”, because there are so many emotions that make you feel happy!

Positive emotions also have a lot to do with your immune system function, which is why I believe that when dealing with cancer you need to stay positive.  It’s like a nutrient to your body.

I’ll keep you updated on how my positive psychology class is going along the way. Would love feedback from you on what your take of being positive is!positive

How To Stop Being Your Own Road Block In Life!

you matterThere are so many limitations we put ourselves, just because we think others disapprove of us. We think we’re too tall, too short, too fat, too bald. These things only matter because we think they matter to others. Our self-conscious worries about what other people may think

We become so focused on ourselves that we pick up on the way others react in a negative way. We’re so fearful of a bad reaction from others that we allow negativity to take over.

You need to give yourself approval and allow yourself to be who you want to be. Not look for the approval from others, but from yourself. Your limitations are just in your mind.

If you don’t mind, then other people don’t mind that much either. And if you don’t mind, then you won’t let yourself become a self-imposed road block in your own life.

Mark Twain said, “Age is an issue of mind over matter, If you don’t mind, it doesn’t matter!”

When you let your mind disbelieve of yourself, of your behavior and actions, you wind up being very uncomfortable with yourself and around others. Once you begin to accept yourself, then you become relaxed around others and want to get out and do more.

“A man cannot be comfortable without his own approval,” quoted; Mark Twain
You must approve of yourself, break down that wall of disbelief. That wall is blocking what you really deserve and what you are capable of doing. It may take getting out of your comfort zone, getting out of your own way.break down wall

Give yourself approval and allow yourself to be who you want to be. Stop looking for the approval from others and just be yourself. Break down that wall of self doubt and stop sabotaging yourself.

Is Smiling Really an Anti-Aging Medicine?

smileySmiling makes you look your best!
Next time you’re walking down the street or go to a restaurant take a look around you, who is smiling and who is frowning, which one looks the best? I’ll bet anything, you say, the one that is smiling.
The more you smile, the more positive and energetic you feel. There was a study done, where some people were allowed to smile when rating a comic, the others were prevented from smiling. The ones who were allowed to smile had a more positive and happy outlook of the comics, where as the ones that frowned did not find them funny at all.
Smiling is contagious.
Have you ever noticed that when you smile at someone, they smile back? Smiling is an action, which brings on the same action, just like a frown might bring on a frown. Walk into a room smiling your biggest smile ever and see what kind of reaction you get. Now see who’s smiling, who wasn’t smiling before.
Another great reason to smile is, as you get older you get facial wrinkles. Would you rather have someone say, you have great laugh lines or frown lines? Believe it or not as you age the lines on your face follow the most natural facial expression you have done in your life. I choose laugh lines, how about you?
Smiling really is an anti-aging medicine. It makes us feel better, look better and age better. So make sure you continue to use less muscles and SMILE!Big smiley face