Archive | September 2015

Money Can’t Buy Happiness!

moneyThey say, “Money can’t buy happiness!”

Well, Success Magazine declares: “Happy People Make More Money!” Happy people are very positive, and positivity has a strong casual link to higher incomes, perhaps because people who see the glass as half full tend to see and be more open to opportunities, to be easier to work with and for, and more likely to find creative solutions and less likely to give up. So, while more money doesn’t necessarily make you happier, More Happiness just might make you more money!

There are all kinds of ways to spread happiness, and there are a lot of people out there doing it right now.

An Iowa woman celebrated her 34th birthday with 34 acts of kindness, hoping to spread happiness by helping others. She left a bag of quarters at a local Laundromat. Dropped a $5 bill on the floor at the dollar store. Thanked firefighters with boxes of chocolates. Handed out Subway restaurant gift cards to homeless people. And stocked the baby changing table at a local Target store with disposable wipes, among many other things. After every act of kindness, she would leave a calling card, urging others to pay it forward.

Another woman would pay for the food of the people behind her in a drive up window. She baked birthday cakes for friends, filled a strangers gas tank, paid for someone’s groceries at the store.

Aristotle quotes: “Happiness depends upon ourselves!”

There are many ways to spread happiness, even if you have no money. You can volunteer at the nearest human society, help out at a dog shelter, or just help out your neighbor next door.

If you ever run out of reasons to be Happy, remember there is always one good reason to just stay happy: It makes you feel better than anything else you could do!be happy

The way I look at things is, My glass  is always full! Even if a glass is only 1/2 full of water, the other half is air, therefore, it is full! I totally believe that staying in a happy frame of mind helps beat the cancer blues!

5 Tips To Help Avoid Cancer!

doctorI just read an article by: Dwight McKee, MD He is board certified in internal medicine, medical oncology, nutrition, and integrative and holistic medicine.
This is what he had to say:
“People who have suffered and beaten cancer are willing to do anything they can to prevent the disease from returning. And that’s probably a mindset everyone should adopt, whether they’ve had cancer or not.”
He’s made fighting cancer his life’s work, McKee says these tips are powerful, and not only advises them to his patients, but anyone else who will listen.
1. Address stress
Chronic stress suppresses your immune function and stokes inflammation, which is like fuel for cancer, says McKee. Whether you get into yoga, hiking, or meditation, “the key is to find a stress-management technique that’s enjoyable,” he says. “If it’s not enjoyable, it’s not sustainable.”
2. Beware of mold
“Mycotoxins and aflatoxins found in mold are among the most carcinogenic substances known,” McKee says. If you’ve had a pipe break in your home, or your basement or bathroom is damp and smells like mildew, hire a mold-removal expert to check out your space and 86 the threat, he says.
3. Break a sweat
Hitting the gym can cause immune system changes that may help you fend off cancer, according to a study from the University of Nebraska. Researchers analyzed the profiles of 16 cancer survivors before and after a 12-week exercise program, comparing their ratio of worn-out immune cells to immune cells that can fight off cancer. Before the exercise program, the survivors’ blood profiles were dominated by the worn-out cells, but after 12 weeks of training, those levels dropped by 15%.
4. Lend a helping hand
Clinical research shows volunteering, mentoring, and other acts of altruism pump up your immune function. “It’s necessary for good health to engage in something on a regular basis that’s rewarding,” says McKee, “and one of the most rewarding activities is helping people.”
5. Take this supplement
This comes up so much that you’re probably tired of hearing about it, but vitamin D is important for multiple aspects of your health—and that includes reducing your risk for cancer, McKee says. The problem: You’re probably not getting enough of it.
The easy fix is spending more time outside. Just 10 minutes of midday, summer sun has been known to deliver as much as 10,000 IU of vitamin D. But as we get closer to winter, the sun won’t be strong enough to trigger that much production, so you’ll have to work D-dense foods like fatty fishes into your diet, and add a supplement.
While the Institute of Medicine recommends a conservative 600 IU, The Endocrine Society—and most doctors—deem up to 2,000 IU daily to be safe. Look for a supplement brand with the trusted U.S. Pharmaceutical Ingredient Verification label.
Having had breast cancer myself, I believe what Dr. McKee is saying. The one thing I would add to his list is: Stay In A Happy Frame Of Mind!smiley

How Do You Measure YOUR Happiness?

boy measuringEveryone measures their happiness in different ways. Some of us measure it in love, material things, health, or success, any way you want to measure it, it comes out as an emotion. How each of us choose to measure our own individual happiness will vary.

There are many things that bring me happiness. My family, my friends, my health, my wealth, my success. I just look around and see all the things that I am truly grateful for and that brings me happiness. Life can be like an up and down see saw, good days, and bad days, you just have to keep looking at the good side of things.

John Templeton Quoted: “Happiness comes from spiritual wealth, not material wealth. Happiness comes from giving, not getting. If we try hard to bring happiness to others, we cannot stop it from coming to us also. To get joy, we must give it, and to keep joy, we must scatter it.

Happiness can come from many different things. What ever you enjoy doing in life can bring you happiness. Listening to a water fall escalating down a mountain top. Sitting in a boat waiting for that big fish to bite your hook, while all is peaceful around you. Smelling the wild flowers while walking in a big meadow. Watching your favorite movie, or reading your favorite book. A back yard barbecue with family and friends.

Extreme happiness can come from watching you’re baby be born.baby There is nothing like watching a life come into the world, what a miracle! There is much happiness when watching your child grow up. Watching them take their first steps, hearing them say their first words or learning to ride their bike for the first time.

There is plenty in life which brings happiness and contentment, the challenge for some of us is to find it. To push aside the challenges, the obstacles and to simply stop and enjoy the moment. To absorb the feeling and emotion of happiness.

We often look around at our life as routine in search of something greater. By doing this we wide up ignoring the simply joys and happiness that we already have.

We are all responsible for our own happiness and I choose mine to be at 110%! What about YOU?

How To Have An Epic Life During Cancer!

cancer ribbonGetting told, “You have Cancer”, can be devastating to you and your family.

I have been in that position myself. You start guessing how your life is going to be. Am I going to die?, Am I going to continue to work in order to pay the bills?, Am I going to get to see my kids or grand kids finish growing up? The biggest question I had, was, How am I going to pay for treatments? I had no insurance.

With all these questions rolling around in your head, can you still enjoy an epic life? I say, YES!, and the reason WHY, is simple! YOU GET TO MAKE YOUR OWN CHOICE IN LIFE!

You might be saying, “But I didn’t choose to get cancer! I don’t have a choice if I die because of cancer! My answer is, “Your right, but you can certainly choose the HOW in how you want to live throughout the rest of your life now.

You have a choice to be happy or sad today. You have a choice what to wear today. You have a choice of what to eat. You have a choice of how you want to deal with your cancer.
If faced with choices and you leave it up to someone else to decide, you have given away all of your power. Don’t give your power away to cancer. BEAT IT!beat defeat We are human, and we have the ability to choose what makes us unique and how we live our life.
You know what’s going to happen when you don’t choose a happy life? You’re going to bitch and complain that life really sucks right now. You’re going to hate life. Life will always be a struggle. And by making that negative choice, you give more power to cancer.
Your life should be filled with laughter, love, family, friends, gratitude, giving and excitement. Sure there will be rough times, but you can’t let that ruin your enjoyment of life.

It’s really sad that no one has completely come up with a cure for cancer. It’s taken the life of every age possible. I was one of the lucky ones that survived breast cancer! My mom survived Lymphoma cancer at the age of 75. Unfortunately, my best friend died of melanoma cancer at the age of 50. Another good friend of mine died of prostate cancer at the age of 67.

I know babies don’t understand this, but they can feel the positive energy of adults around them. I believe that as adults, if we keep a positive energy around us at all times during cancer, we will survive. I believe that was the biggest difference between my best friend and I during cancer. She gave up, and I refused to!

I believe that even during cancer, you can have an EPIC life. You just have to choose it!choose

Can YOU Learn To Be Happy?

happy girl in flowersSome people are just born happy and stay happy throughout their life. Others see nothing but negativity in life and are depressed. Those people that just seem to hate life, can they learn to be happy too? Can YOU?

A professor of positive psychology at George Mason University in Virginia, Todd Kashdan, also author of Curious, says, “What truly provides satisfaction is having a meaning and purpose in life, which is doubly important in the midst of this current economic nightmare.

I totally agree with his statement. With our economy in such a down spin, it makes it really hard to find the positive side of things. But, it you find you have a purpose in life, then that’s all you’ll focus on.
You’ll wind up not worrying about everything else that’s going on in the world. That doesn’t mean you don’t care, it just means you have better things in life to do than worry about all the negative things.

Todd Kashdan also says, “We need to move away from the concept of trying to fill our days with frequent pleasurable moments and fewer negative moments.” In other words, fill your day with sunshine and fun, with happiness and joy, and stay away from the negative.

There will always be a lot of negativity in life. When the real estate market crashed and the stock market spiraled downward, a lot of people lost their life savings. They became unable to make their mortgage payments, car payments, and went into credit card debt big time. I know how that feels, as I was one.

The thing you have to do in this situation is just deal with it. Never, ever, put all your thoughts on it. Instead of thinking of all your debt, think of a solution! There is a solution for every problem, Math 101! Don’t ever beat yourself up over what has happened in your life, move ahead and find the happiness you deserve. Everyone was born in this world to be happy, including YOU!

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What Is The Meaning Of Happiness?

little girl happyWhile looking up the meaning of happiness, my brother happened to have a dictionary dated 1912,  over 100 years old. It is called the ‘New Websterian 1912 Dictionary’. Based upon the unabridged dictionary of Noah Webster, LL.D.

The meaning of happiness in this dictionary is: The state of being happy; good fortune; felicitousness. There is also a meaning of, happify, didn’t really know it was a word, but it says: to make cheerful and happy.

What Good Is It To Have Everything If You’re Not Happy?

I think people have lost perspective of what true happiness is. People keep thinking, If I would just loose some weight I would be happy, If I could make more money I would be happy, If I was rich I would be happy, If I had better health, I would be happy. I could go on and on with different reasons of what people think they need in order to be happy.

Right now we live in an age of convenience. We have more conveniences than our ancestors could ever even dream of having. We have trains, planes, and fast automobiles. We have cell phones, and computers, at the touch of a button we can communicate with any one in the world. Yet with all these conveniences more people are unhappy and miserable today than a hundred years ago.

People are getting so caught up with chasing after the next big buck, with being rich that they forget the true meaning of a happy life. What good is it to have everything if you’re not happy?

Jack LaLanne made a video a few years ago and in it he talks about being happy. He said if you look around you when you’re on a bus or walking down the street, you’ll notice the bigger majority of people have frowns on their faces, they’ve completely lost the ability to smile. They may be driving the fanciest car, or wearing the most expensive suit, or have all the money in the world, but they’re not happy. Why is this?

He tells a story of being on a street car, where this lady wore ragged clothes, torn dress and carrying a baby. She sat down on the bus, started nursing the baby and then started singing, everyone on the street car started singing, including Jack LaLanne. He said almost all the people on the street car were poor, they had little food, little money, no fancy cars, but they were happy. So what good does it do to have all the major convinces in life, the fancy cars, the fancy suits, lots of money, if you can’t be happy? It makes no sense to Jack Lalanne, it makes no sense to me.

Jack Lalanne’s whole focus in life is exercise, eating right and being happy. He says you need to exercise, without exercise everything is hanging and drooping, including your smile. He says, “Let’s get back to the way nature intended us to be, really enjoying everything we have in this great land of ours, and really appreciate it twenty four hours a day. You must choose to be happy, and live your day as if it was your last!happy baby

Happiness cannot come from without. It must come from within. It is not what we see and touch or that which others do for us which makes us happy; it is that which we think and feel and do, first for the other fellow and then for ourselves. ‘Helen Keller’

I truly believe that one of the ways to fight cancer is to stay in a happy frame of mind, ALWAYS BE HAPPY! I believe it helped me fight breast cancer and now basil cell cancer.

The Key To Being Happier!

smiling sunThere’s no magic potion, pill or antidote to make yourself happier.

A lot of people turn to alcohol or drugs to drown out the pain, but that is only a temporary fix. Alcohol is actually a depressant and in the long run can destroy your life and those around you. Taking drugs is even worse, the first high may make you feel happier than you’ve ever been, but there is and always will be a down side. You can also get hooked on hard drugs easier than alcohol and some will kill you.

I’ve watched someone destroy their life with drugs. She was the most beautiful girl, and very young. Not sure why she started taking drugs in the first place, as she had a beautiful baby boy, a fiancé, family and great friends. After only a few months of doing drugs, she had nothing more to do with anything, that included her one year old baby boy. To this day, Twelve years later, she is still some where on the streets doing drugs and looking like death is all around her. The sad part about alcohol and drugs is no one can help them, but themselves. They have to want to change, they need to change their emotions, without the use of substances.

So what is the key to being happier?

It’s your emotions. You have full control over your emotions. You can choose to be sad, angry, or happy. Controlling your emotions is literally the key to living a healthier, happier, and more abundant life.

When you let your emotions take control of how you feel, like stressed out, angry, depressed, it causes major turmoil in your life, which in turn makes it almost impossible to be happy. These negative emotions can be the death of you, they can prevent you from enjoying the things that make you happy.

You have to learn how to change your emotions, overcome all the negative energy around you. Change the negative energy into positive happy energy. Emotions actually carry a distinct energy that influences everything around us, change your emotions, change your life.

Take your happy life back again by controlling your emotions. It’s not all just about positive thinking, although it helps, but what you need to do is learn control. When a negative emotion enters into your life, change it with a positive emotion. Get your mind completely off being depressed and find something that makes you happy again.

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Have Courage Over Cancer!

cancer ribbonI just came across this quote today and had to share it!

“I learned that courage was not the absence of fear, but the triumph over it. The brave man is not he who does not feel afraid, but he who conquers that fear.”
― Nelson Mandela

We all fear cancer!  But instead of having fear, we need to have courage over it! If we conquer our fear of cancer, as far as I’m concerned, WE WIN!!

Dr. Wayne Dryer Will Be Missed By All!

dr. wayne dyerBecause I believe you need to hear inspirational messages and stay positive to beat cancer, I just had to post this about Dr. Wayne Dryer.

Dr. Wayne W. Dyer, the best-selling self-help guru and author of 30 books is now in heaven looking over us. He will be missed!

Dr. Wayne Dyer was speaking at a conference one day about an orange, this is what was said:

“I was preparing to speak at an I Can Do It conference and I decided to bring an orange on stage with me as a prop for my lecture. I opened a conversation with a bright young fellow of about twelve who was sitting in the front row.
“If I were to squeeze this orange as hard as I could, what would come out?” I asked him.
He looked at me like I was a little crazy and said, “Juice, of course.”
“Do you think apple juice could come out of it?”
“No!” he laughed.
“What about grapefruit juice?”
“No!”
“What would come out of it?”
“Orange juice, of course.”
“Why? Why when you squeeze an orange does orange juice come out?”
He may have been getting a little exasperated with me at this point.
“Well, it’s an orange and that’s what’s inside.”
I nodded. “Let’s assume that this orange isn’t an orange, but it’s you. And someone squeezes you, puts pressure on you, says something you don’t like, offends you. And out of you comes anger, hatred, bitterness, fear. Why? The answer, as our young friend has told us, is because that’s what’s inside.”oranges
It’s one of the great lessons of life. What comes out when life squeezes you? When someone hurts or offends you? If anger, pain and fear come out of you, it’s because that’s what’s inside. It doesn’t matter who does the squeezing—your mother, your brother, your children, your boss, the government. If someone says something about you that you don’t like, what comes out of you is what’s inside. And what’s inside is up to you, it’s your choice.
When someone puts the pressure on you and out of you comes anything other than love, it’s because that’s what you’ve allowed to be inside. Once you take away all those negative things you don’t want in your life and replace them with love, you’ll find yourself living a highly functioning life.

When dealing with cancer, let your insides have only positive love be squeezed out!

How To Manage Your Emotions When Having Cancer!

emotions girlDo you go on day after day and let emotions control you? Or do you control them?

It took me a long time to learn to control my emotions and stay positive in life. I’m so glad I did, because when I was diagnosed with breast cancer it tried to turn my life upside down.

Most of the doctors were negative, telling me you only have two choices, have a mastectomy or a lumpectomy and radiation. They sat me down asking me if I was ok, never telling me that it would be ok.

I believe, because of my positive attitude, I was able to keep my emotions in tact and beat the deadly disease of breast cancer. I can happily say now that I am cancer free!

Negative Emotions

Much of psychology and counseling focuses on how to regulate negative emotions, such as, negativity, anxiety, depression, anger and stress. Some of our closest friends and even our families can be very negative in our live.

Much of our life also includes the experience of positive emotions as well, and learning to regulate emotions such as joy, gratitude, and optimism. You need to start looking on the bright side of things, always being in a happy state of mind.

An article that was posted in the, Journal of Happiness Studies in 2007, reports that there are two main strategies when it comes to the regulation of positive emotions. These include maintaining or prolonging, and increasing or enhancing, positive emotional experiences.

Maintaining positive emotions

When we hear some great news, achieve something important to us, experience something inspiring and uplifting, this is when you need to find a way to make these feelings last. This helps us to get the most from positive emotions.

One thing that can be done is to simply share positive and pleasant news with others. As long as the other person is willing to embrace and validate our positive feelings, it gives us a chance to prolong our positive feelings. If you do share with a negative person, always be ready for a negative feedback.

Learning to savor positive feelings and experiences can really help you experience extended positive emotions. A few ways to savor positive emotions is to anticipate the upcoming experience, appreciate and fully engage in the moment, and reminisce about the experience afterwards.

Enhancing positive emotions

When things are going well in your life, this is a great opportunity to boost and enhance your positive emotional experiences. Cultivating gratitude is one way to do this. Consider the blessings in your life and really appreciate all the good things you have. Every day before you get out of bed, you should think of all the things you are grateful for.

A short exercise that I learned was to write on a piece of paper every day for twenty one days, three things that I am grateful for. Never repeating the same one twice. Try it for yourself; you will not believe how this one exercise will change your whole outlook on life, especially when dealing with cancer.

Learning to find positive meaning and value when there’s stress and adversity in our life, can also help us turn our emotional state around. Reframe and reappraise situations with a positive outlook. Find that silver lining and embrace that positive thought instead of the negative thought.

Do what you can to extract the most satisfaction from your positive feelings and you will find it easier to bounce back from negativity and keep positive throughout your day and throughout your life!

“Either You Run The Day, Or The Day Runs You!” Quote: Jim Rohnpositive