This Is Your Life, You Choose It!
This is your life and you have the power to choose how it turns out. Sure, there are a lot of obstacles that come your way. Life can throw some major shit at you and you think you have no control over it.
Back to when I had cancer, I just wanted the doctor to cut it out and have it be gone. That is what I chose and thanks to God, The Universe or who ever you believe in, that is exactly what happened. Some of my friends were not so lucky. I had my best friend from high school die of cancer. She didn’t even get to see her grand baby be born.
It makes you wonder, WHY? Why her, why now? All you can do is think that they are needed in a different place, a better place, a happy, happy place. So, you’re probably thinking, “I’m sure she didn’t choose to die!” And you would be right, because you can’t control life and death, but you can control how you live it in-between.
You control what you’re doing right now, what you’ll be doing tomorrow and the next day. It’s hard for some people to swallow, but you are in the place you’re in right now because you choose to be there. Now I can really hear an argument coming!
“But, I didn’t choose my life to suck, I didn’t choose to be broke, I didn’t choose to get cancer. Some of your argument is correct and some is not. No one chooses to have cancer, but it was your choice if your life sucks. You need to take control and do something about it.
I, for one, have had many obstacles in my life, the biggest one of course was my breast cancer. In my adult life, my mom was diagnosed with lymphoma cancer, the Real Estate market crashed, I lost my home, my investments and all my savings.
After my cancer, I lost my step-daughter, she was only 31, whom I helped raise since age 6. What a blow that was and very unexpected! I not only had to stay positive for myself , but most importantly for my husband. After we retired she’d call him at least once or twice a week. Real hard not getting that phone call anymore or knowing you’ll never see her again. They say you’re suppose to go before your kids, I guess that’s not always the case.
The only way we can stay positive is to think that God needed someone with a big heart and lots of laughter up there, because that is exactly how she was, always making people smile and laugh. After all this, There was no way I was going to just sit around and whine and complain about how much my life sucked.
I found a way to stay positive through out all of this. I read many motivational books, I looked at what I still had left, which was a huge blessing, and that was my husband, my mom, as she had beat lymphoma cancer, my kids, my grandkids all my family and friends. You have to look at what you still have in life and be grateful for that.