Keeping your Emotions in tact is one of the hardest things to deal with after you’ve been told, “You Have Cancer!”
I believe because of my positive attitude I was able to keep my emotions in tact and beat the deadly disease of breast cancer.
Much of psychology and counseling focuses on how to regulate these negative emotions, such as, negativity, anxiety, depression, anger and stress.
Much of our life also includes the experience of positive emotions as well, and learning to regulate emotions such as joy, gratitude, and optimism. This is where thinking positive comes in to help. Try really hard to start looking on the bright side of things, always being in a happy state of mind.
Journal of Happiness!
An article that was posted in the, Journal of Happiness Studies in 2007, reports that there are two main strategies when it comes to the regulation of positive emotions, and these include maintaining or prolonging, and increasing or enhancing, positive emotional experiences.
When we hear some great news, achieve something important to us, or experience something inspiring and uplifting, we need to find a way to make these feelings last. This helps us to get the most from positive emotions.
One thing that can be done is to simply share positive and pleasant news with others. As long as the other is willing to embrace and validate our positive feelings it gives us a chance to prolong them. Never share with a negative person, unless you’re ready for a negative feed back.
Learning to savor positive feelings and experiences can really help you experience extended positive emotions. A few ways to savor positive emotions is to anticipate the upcoming experience, appreciate and fully engage in the moment, and reminisce about the experience afterwards.
When things are going well this is a great opportunity to boost and enhance our positive emotional experiences. Cultivating gratitude is one way to do this. Consider the blessings in your life and really appreciate all the good things you have. Everyday before you get out of bed, you should think of all the things you are grateful for.
For Instance: I’m grateful I am able to get out of bed. I’m grateful I can walk and talk. I’m grateful I can breathe. Maybe this seems silly to you, but these are every day things that most of us take for granted, as there are other people who struggle with simple things like breathing.
A short exercise that I learned, was to write on a piece of paper every day for twenty one days, three things that I am grateful for. Never repeating the same one twice. Try it for yourself, you will not believe how this one exercise will change your whole outlook on life.
Learning to find positive meaning and value when there’s stress and adversity in our life can also help us turn our emotional state around. Re-frame and reappraise situations with a positive outlook. Find the silver lining and any value that the situation offers.
Learning to be open to positive feelings is a major key to keeping these feelings alive. Remember to focus on past success that makes you feel proud and stay present in the moment. Do what you can to extract the most satisfaction from your positive feelings and you will find it easier to bounce back from negativity and keep positive throughout your day and throughout your life.